WOA #2: ALWAYS go into work with a money-making attitude
I know that you’re probably thinking “well DUH, everyone should know this.” True, all dancers should know this but just because this should be the standard, doesn’t mean it’s always the case. It’s very easy to go into work and not be in a hustling mood. Maybe you’re not in the best of moods that day, maybe you’re feeling lazy, or you’re just not in the right mentality for whatever reason. It probably happens to all of us at some point. For some, as frequent as a couple shifts a week. I would hope not all shifts because what’s the point of working if you’re never in the mood to make money?
In any case, you’re only hurting yourself when you don’t have the right mentality at work. If you’re not in a hustling mood, you’re probably not going to make the effort to talk to too many people. Dancers in my club who aren’t in a money making mood can generally be found just lounging around in the dressing room. I will admit I have been guilty of this on quite a few occasions.
Hustling isn’t an easy task. To be an effective hustler, you have to market yourself well and figure out a way to convince a patron that he/she should buy a dance from you. You need to be in the right state of mind to hustle. Patrons can tell when you’re not in the best mood to do so. A little embarrassing to say, but when I first starting dancing and had no clue how to hustle, a couple patrons called me out on it. I don’t think it’s appropriate to tell a dancer that she’s a terrible hustler, but that’s neither here nor there.
Bottom line: Always try and maintain a money-making attitude. Even if you don’t have rent coming up soon or a car payment coming up, hustle like you do. Always hustle hard!
I used to wanna be a stripper and I still have a lot of respect for them and like them veryy much :) but I was curious do you ever feel weird when you have a really old guy and he wants like a lap dance. I always wondered if it would be okay to be uncomfortable with doing that and just not. I also understand you can't be picky if you want the money, but I'm not talking looks so much as wow that guy looks like my dad well this is gonna be weird kinda deal. thanks <3
It’s a little weird at first, especially if the old guy is especially freaky. Just because their motor skills are slowly declining doesn’t mean they still don’t have the urge if you know what I mean. Sometimes you might feel gross but after time, you get to become somewhat numb to it all. It helps if you can separate your mind from what you’re body is doing. When I give lap dances, I’m usually somewhere completely different in my head, with my body going on auto pilot. I hope that makes sense. I’d imagine that anyone who gave a lap dance to a man that resembled her father would feel strange. You have to get over these kinds of things if you want to make money.
I know that un-hustled isn’t technically a word, but you catch the gist right? It basically means to hustle every patron that comes in the club. Maybe there are patrons you’ve had a bad experience with, heard bad stories about, or who just doesn’t like you for whatever reason. It’s okay to not try and hustle them because as I have asserted before, time is money and you don’t want to waste time on customers you KNOW won’t spend money on you.
I’m talking about new patrons you’ve never talked to before. It’s easy to judge a customer by their appearance and assume they won’t buy dances. I was really guilty of doing this when I first started dancing. I still do it sometimes when I’m not in the best money-making mood. I can’t tell you how many times I would pass up talking to a customer because I assumed he wouldn’t spend money and then see some other dancer going to the VIP room with him 10 minutes later. It’s even worse when they keep going back to that VIP room throughout the night. All you can do is sit there and think, “damn, that could’ve been me back there making all that money.”
You can never really know if they would’ve liked you enough to buy dances from you to begin with. Regardless, it’s always better to try even if you think you won’t get any money out of them. Think of it this way, what’s there to lose? Nothing. Okay, well maybe a little bit of time depending on how long you keep yourself there but you have to sacrifice time to get money in the first place. All I’m saying is don’t be so picky about who you hustle unless you have a legitimate reason. Sometimes, and maybe even majority of the time, the girls who hustled the most leave with the most. Just something to think about next time you’re mentally debating whether you should talk to a patron.
I’ve decided to start up a new series on my blog called WOA, abbreviated for Word of Advice. They’re just going to be tips based on my own personal experiences, experiences from other dancers, and just based on observation in general. I’m still going to continue my stripper pet peeves though so no worries.
Anyways, look out for my first WOA post very soon!
Every stripper has a look and fulfills a fantasy of some sort. The faster you find your niche the more money you’ll be making. You will not be everyone’s type, be warned but the guys that will like you, will LOVE you!
Some girls instantly look sexy, and they market on that seductress look. Those…
You know that whole “don’t judge a book by its cover concept?” Well it applies to many different aspects of the club. One (of many mind you) that really bothers me is the volume of a club. You’d think that more people = more money, and a lot of the time that is the case. Not always though and those shifts are such a let down. It’s especially worse when its on a prime-time money making night such as Friday or Saturday night and there’s like 30 dancers to compete with.
I’d much rather have a club with maybe 10-15 people in it spending some real money than 30+ people barely buying a girl a drink. Sometimes on those nights when I’ve wasted my efforts on these broke customers, I just sit back and watch as other dancers mosey around the club trying to drain out what couple 20’s these people have left. I understand that a good portion of the American public (99% as many would say) are suffering from economic downturn. Just because we’re on the brink of another recession doesn’t mean its okay for you to come broke into a strip club. I’m sorry that I’m not that sympathetic but no matter the state of the economy, I don’t put on those heels and prance around half naked because I like the attention. I, along with pretty much every other dancer in there, do it to make money. For most dancers, the money made off of customers pays for rent and other big bills.
Usually on these dry shifts, you’ll find a good percentage of dancers in the dressing room relaxing until the next 2-4-1 and then you’ll find most of them on stage during the 2-4-1’s. Its so ridiculous when you have 10+ dancers on or surrounding the stage during a 2-4-1. It’s cramped and it means that not many dancers are making money.
Just as you shouldn’t judge a patron’s wallet by his appearance, you shouldn’t judge your earning potential on a certain shift by the volume of the club. Big numbers does not always mean big bills.
These are two important words to me in the World of Strip Club: Autonomy. Context.
These words can change that world in which we work. These two words can mean the difference between comfort and violation. Remember the half-joking statement, “there’s no such thing as sexual harassment in a strip club”? It’s kind of like that, to me. Autonomy. Context.
Autonomy: At the end of it all, it’s my choice. I choose to dance for you. I choose to walk away. I choose to throw french fries at you. I choose to make this memorable. I choose to let you touch my hips. I choose to stare at the bouncer until he throws you out. I choose that X amount of dollars is worth this to me—or I choose that it’s not.
Context: I understand that you can’t understand, those of you who haven’t worn these heels, done a set on stage, been behind the red curtain, sat in the leather chairs; that even if you’re a non-dancing coworker, or if you know me outside of the club, you will not understand the club until you’ve come at it from the angle of exchange.
I cannot stress enough to all the baby strippers not use lotions when you’re at work. I know, I know you want to feel ultra soft and look shiny and new but trust me for your own health you don’t need the stinking lotions. Seriously, no.
I learned the hard way when on my third shift I decided to…
I always know when the seasons (particularly cold or dry ones) are starting to change because my legs break out in eczema.
Shaving makes it worse
Scratching……FORGET ABOUT IT
Touchably smooth legs….what are those?
I didn’t work last year during the cold months - for other reasons - but I feel like my flare up might demotivate this year around. I pride myself on having smooth skin for majority of the year. I don’t feel like dealing with patrons touching my legs during lap dances and thinking “what the hell??”
GRRRRRR…….I hate having a skin condition. I know its common, but it still sucks!
Time to bring out the big guns - Jergens, St. Ives, and Aveeno.
when you first started dancing, was it hard, did you need a lot of upper body strength?
It was a little difficult at first. I noticed there was a sort of style to exotic dancing but with time and A LOT of practice, I began to get into the same rhythm as most of the other dancers. When it came to doing actual pole tricks, I had no problem climbing up the pole, but knowing what to do once I got up there was a challenge for the first few months. Lifting weights and doing core exercises helps tremendously strengthen your body so you can pull off more pole tricks. You definitely need a lot of upper body strength to pull off pole tricks, especially the more intermediate ones.
I came across a job posting last week and the position title was Social Companion. I was somewhat intrigued by this title so I decided to see what the position entailed. It turns out this was a more gentle term for non-sexual escorting. I wanted more information so I sent my picture in and a number. I got a call the next day. The lady on the phone explained to me that as a social companion, I would spend time with men on an hourly basis. There would be no type of sexual service or stripping involved. In fact, they discourage that kind of behavior in their business. Apparently I would just be providing company for these lonely men. I was all for this kind of work until I found out that most of the meetings with the clients are in hotel rooms. Mama didn’t raise no fool so my question is if sex isn’t offered, why are the meetings in hotel rooms? What are we going to do in a hotel room? Play some poker? Order room service and have pillow talk?
Truth be told, that varies on the club you’re working in. Before I started stripping, I had this idea in my head that all strippers were tall, exotic, well-endowed women. There are, however, dancers of many different shapes and sizes. More upscale clubs have higher standards with their dancers as far as being thin, big-breasted, pretty….basically a perfect 10. Other clubs, are more lenient with their girls. Some too lenient, to be honest.
“Applicants are told working as a stripper is flexible, lucrative, and that they will not be forced to do anything they do not want to do. Later, strippers discover that managers overbook them so they are forced to compete with each other, often gradually engaging in more explicit activities in order to earn tips. It’s important to understand that strippers are typically hired as ‘independent contractors’ rather than ‘employees.’ They have no fixed wage, and their income depends on pleasing customers in order to earn tips. They are not entitled to any of the following privileges: workers’ compensation, health insurance, unemployment benefits, or filing discrimination claims. Club owners save money by paying no Social Security, no health insurance, and no sick pay.”—Porn Myth 2. (via anon-cherrybomb)
I’m not sure if this topic is considered too taboo for tumblr but it’s my blog and this is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. In fact, I’m sure its a serious annoyance for most all exotic dancers. We’re supposed to be looking our sexiest when we’re at work. How is that possible when its that time of the month? When I’m on my period, I don’t look or feel sexy. Here’s the reasons why, and most should be pretty standard for most women:
There’s a war going on in my uterus
I’m seriously bloated and OH DOES IT SHOW!
I’m not in the best mood. In fact, if I were armed I’d probably go to jail for murdering a customer who tried to feel me up. That or I might cut a bitch for either stealing a customer or talking shit.
I want to eat EVERYTHING!
My back is killing me
I get bad break-outs on my face. Oh great!
On top of all this crap, I have to stress out about changing my tampon as much as possible. It’s always a fear of mine when that time rolls around that I’ll bleed on a customer. It’s happened before to other girls at they club. They’ve either been on stage and bled through an outfit or they’ve bled directly on a customer during a lap dance. It’s also super important to make sure you either cut the tampon string reaaaaaal short or you tuck that shit reaaaaaal good. I’ve seen it a couple times when a girl will be doing her set, she splits her legs open and you can see her string. Customers can see it too and it’s more embarrassing when they notice it first. Ladies, if you see a fellow dancer’s tampon string sticking out, PLEASE TELL HER!
I hate hate HATE working while i’m on my period. Technically I could just not work when I’m on my period but I don’t feel like losing money because of the female curse. I won’t be beat like that. I hope you ladies won’t either, but it’s your choice of course. My advice, take some Advil or Pamprin (which ever works best for you), change your tampon frequently, cut and tuck the string, and TRY not to kill anyone. Best of luck!
A lot of different clubs have these things called 2-4-1’s. I’m not sure if they work the same in all clubs, but I want to talk about mine. Depending on how busy the club is, my club has 2-4-1’s every 4-8 songs. The DJ will play this seriously lame music to let the patrons and dancers know its that time. BTW, by seriously lame music, I mean they play 2 Unlimited’s “Get ready for this.” If you were born yesterday or live under a rock, that’s the music in Space Jam and in Bring It On. That music will haunt you in your sleep. You’ll wake up thinking it’s time to start hustlin the hell out of some people! I’m my club, the 2-4-1 means that during that time, customers can get a 2-song table dance for $20 (the cost of what is normally for one song). Dancers also try and sell lap dances during this time as well. I feel kind of bad for new patrons because the DJ makes it sound like they get some sort of deal on lap dances…..but they don’t.
When dancers in my club hear that music, they start making their rounds and get to the real hustling. It sort of looks like an intense game of musical chairs. If for any reason you don’t get a customer to buy a dance from you during the 2-4-1, you have to get up on stage and dance for 2 songs. This sucks major for a number of reasons:
It’s kind of like the dance of shame when you have to get on stage during the 2-4-1. You either didn’t hustle hard enough, at all, or just plain didn’t appeal to the customer enough for him to buy a dance from you. It happens.
You might have just gotten off stage and now you have do another set.
There are only 2 small stages in my club and ANY girl who doesn’t sell a dance has to get on stage. Night shifts have anywhere between 14-35 girls. Can you picture 12 bitches on stage at one time?! It’s uncomfortable and forget about dancing at that point.
The 2-4-1 music sucks! They’ll only play that silly Space Jam song for a minute or so just to signal that its 2-4-1 time. They’ll generally play oldies or really classic rock for the actual set. This music IS NOT SEXY or fun to dance to for that matter (in my opinion).
If you do not sell a dance and don’t get on stage, they’ll fine you $5. Not a serious fine and if you’ve made enough money for the night, it’s a small price to pay to save yourself an unnecessary set. Some girls sit out because they feel they’re too good to dance on stage during 2-4-1’s. Some girls might just be tired, or lazy, or just taking some needed time during the 2-4-1 to get to know a patron. Really nice patrons who are interested in just talking to you will pay your $5 fine. They might even pay $20 for a table dance but not make you dance. $5 gets taken out of 2-song $20 dances anyways so you’re making money and you don’t have to dance. I hate to sound like a lazy stripper but I love not having to dance during a 2-4-1 but still getting paid just the same.
Even though the 2-4-1 deal is reserved for the table dances, you REALLY want to sell lap dances. If you start out trying to sell lap dances, but the customer doesn’t want one, the patron might still get a table dance. It’s that whole aim high, sell low strategy. 2-4-1’s can seriously suck sometimes if you’re not selling dances but they can also be the time to make serious bills. If the crowd is decent, you should always hustle hard during that time.
This varies from dancer to dancer. Some girls spend hundreds of dollars weekly to make sure they are in perfect shape for their weekly shifts. Some girls, let’s face it, don’t do enough to prepare themselves for their shifts. It all depends on what works for you, how much you’re willing to spend, and how much you can afford for that matter. Exotic dancers are generally expected to be looking extra good from head to toe. Yes, that means from weave to pedicured toes ladies!
I’ll give a quick run-through of my beauty routine. To make it simple, I’ll go from head to toe.
I addressed one aspect of this little issue in an earlier post. It was the Stripper Pet Peeve on people who think that exotic dancers aren’t intelligent. Unfortunately that isn’t the only negative way workers in the sex industry are viewed. Society paints a horrible picture of what we do and who we are. Many people think that we are any or even all of the following:
1. Drug-addicted. Coke tends to be the drug of popular belief when it comes to stereotyping strippers.
3. Lacking in self-respect/self-esteem
Though this may be the case for some people, it should not be generalized to ALL sex workers. It’s just like racial stereotypes. Not all black people are loud and like fried chicken. Not all Asian people are awesome at math. Not all white people can’t dance. Not all Hispanics and are uneducated. Getting the picture here? The same rule goes for strippers and any other type of sex worker.
I understand that society will never truly accept us. I’m not Obama here, so make no mistake, I’m not trying to advocate for some serious change. I’m simply expressing my concerns on how sex workers are portrayed and thought of by society. I just feel like its due to a lot of ignorance and conformity. People are going to judge what we do for a living, but we’re working hard and who’s to say we aren’t making an honest living? Sure, maybe some of us aren’t going about our money-making ways in an honest fashion, but again, that does not mean all of us aren’t. Food for thought.
SPP #38 - When patrons expect to have sex in the champagne room
In the words of Chris Rock,
"There’s no sex in the Champagne Room…None!
Oh there’s CHAMPAGNE in the Champagne Room
But you don’t want Champagne…you want sex
And there’s no sex…in the Champagne Room.”
Maybe in some clubs, you can get down and dirty with a stripper in the champagne room. That’s just not the case in my club (and I would think most to be honest). The rules don’t change just because you pay more for champagne and a little privacy. Please stop convincing yourselves that you can get away with more in that special room.
I let patrons know well in advance that the dances in the champagne room don’t differ that much from the VIP dances. The only difference is the champagne and the privacy. In my club, there isn’t even that much privacy in the champagne room. They are conveniently placed near the DJ booth so that DJ’s can see what’s going on. It can be odd for the dancer and the customers to know that there are a pair of eyes on them, but it comes in handy when you have drunk customers who get a little too rough. I’ve seen it happen a dozen times when a customer who’s had a beer too many can’t seem to keep his hands from exploring and then security guys take control of the situation.
Gentlemen, if you’re looking for a little extra, then look up your local escort agency rather than hoping you’ll get lucky in a strip club. It’s just not happening.