SPP #13 - When customers wear pajama-type pants to the club
OH LADIES….I know you know what I mean by this one. You’ll get those customers that come in wearing what feel like pajama pants. These could be track pants, sweat pants, or even actual pajama pants. I totally had it happen once. So what’s the big deal with these types of pants ehhh? OH LETS SEE……these pants are way too thin and loose. I know that even with the thickest jeans, I’ll still probably be able to feel your stiff salute. With pajama type pants, I can practically feel the veins in your penis. I’d rather not feel that much of your boner.
The other major problem that I have with these type of pants is that they make customers that much more sensitive to any degree of grinding that I’m doing during a lap dance. What does that risk? Oh I don’t know…..you ejaculating in your pants. I already addressed that as a pet peeve so naturally anything that would make the occurrence a possibility is going to bother me as well.
Put on some appropriate pants when you go to a gentlemen’s club! This means no pajama-type pants and while i’m on the subject, no pants made of cheap fabric of any kind. It can make lap dances relatively uncomfortable (in terms of skin irritation) for the dancers.
SPP #12 - When Customers cum in their pants during lap dances
Every dancer will have to experience their customer jizzing in their pants during a lap dance at some point. Some girls, at least once a day. I feel like this happens due to one or two of the following reasons:
1. The dancer is incredibly skilled at what she does - great for her :)
2. Customers grind dancers extra hard against their junk with the intention of ejaculating then and there
3. The customer is a bit of a “pre-me" if you catch my drift….
4. The customer wears pants that allow them to feel EVERYTHING (will elaborate in a upcoming blog post).
It’s very awkward for a dancer to see your cum stains. It’s even MORE awkward to feel your cum stains. I can’t tell you how many girls this happens to on a weekly basis. That dancer will come into the dressing room talking about how he got jiz on her ass, on her thigh, and/or on her leg. Unless you’re club is relatively upscale and has a shower, dancers are limited on ways of getting cleaned up at the club. Without showers the most a girl can do to clean herself up is using quite a few baby wipes, hand soap, and maybe even some hand sanitizer. Either way, it’s a very time-consuming process, not too mention, WE JUST DON’T WANT YOUR LOAD ANYWHERE NEAR US.
I once was giving a lap dance and I felt a cold sensation on my ass. The dance was pretty much over by the time I realized it. The customer had left a pretty big cum stain on my booty shorts and I was pissed! To make matters even worse, he acted like nothing had ever happened. I know a good portion of customers do this to avoid any awkward conversations or apologies with the dancers due to the situation and they’re probably embarrassed enough (or not at all). To those customers who aren’t, ya should be.
All you need to know is that I’d rather not have to see or feel your “custom paint job.” It’s uncomfortable for what I think would be both of us (for me, absolutely). I’d rather customers either tell me to slow down, not grind me as hard against their junk, or just not wear super sensitive pants.
Just Pretty pretty please with sprinkles and whip cream on top - DO NOT GET YOUR FLUIDS ANYWHERE NEAR ME.
SPP #11 - When male customers bring in their gf's/wife
There are many women out there who LOVE to go to the strip club with their “significant other”. Notice I said “many women” and not “ALL”. Unfortunately, I have found that a decent percentage of the women that come to the club with their man are bitter and extremely jealous. I cannot stand when men bring these type of women in the club. What I most often assume is that the men drag them there under the impression that they’ll have a good time (which they easily could) OR their wife/gf/whatever will only let them go to the club if they can go. It’s kind of how some woman won’t let their fiance’s have a bachelor party unless they can go. I’ve never understood how that worked, but I don’t want to get off topic.
So these women are a little jealous….what’s the big deal, right? The deal is that these women will sit in their chairs with their arms folded, with the meanest and/or most disgusted look on their face. They might either be facing the dancers with this look or at their man for how they’re looking at the dancers. Either way, it’s extremely awkward for the dancers….especially when it comes time to hustle that male customer. These women can actually sometimes act as a twat-block (in a sense) and that is no bueno! I once had a couple in their 50’s come in. I wasn’t going to even try to hustle the man but he kept trying to get me to come over. I ended up giving him a dance, but I felt so uncomfortable. Just before the dance, when I was at the table with him and his woman, she was staring at me with this judging/disappointed look on her face. I could tell she was extremely uncomfortable and just wanted to get the hell out of there. She ended up convincing him to leave just as he was about to buy another dance from me. Even though I did manage to get a dance out of him, I still felt like the score was Jealous wife - 1, Karma -none.
The case obviously isn’t always that these women are jealous. Some women just aren’t comfortable being in a strip club. Even though I am a dancer, I totally get it. If I weren’t in the profession that I was in, I would feel odd watching women dance half naked. I’d feel even more uncomfortable if my man-friend was oogling some girl that was younger and/or prettier than I was. This is all assuming I, for some reason, didn’t appreciate exotic dancers the way I do now. It’s something I can’t know because I do dance and I do have that appreciation.
Regardless, my advice to male customers: Don’t bring in female customers if you have the slightest doubts about them being comfortable and even prone to having a good time. It’s frustrating to hustle when there are uncomfortable females around. Not to mention, I get tired of the mean-mugging when I’m on stage. Ya feel me?
Now, don’t get me wrong, I LOVE dirty talk. Somehow, I just can’t get into it at the club. For one, dirty talk comes in many different levels or grades (whatever you want to call it). I just generally can’t get into it unless i’m actually seeing (or f***ing) that person i’m talking dirty to. It’s really not a common occurrence for me to get a customer that wants to talk dirty, but I feel awkward when I do get one. I can seem to fake everything else in the club EXCEPT for talking dirty. One of my first “dirty talking” customers was real extreme. He said the following things to me and I quote, “I want to suck on your nipples until they bleed”……..and, “I want to stick my bat up your brown hole.” I was brand spanking new to the business and I get what felt like at least a level 8 (out of 10) dirty talker? Disappoint. I’ve had customers who’ve said things that were borderline pedo and i’ve had the men who like to be degraded. I’m not comfortable with any of it. I’d rather the customers not say much during the lap dance unless it was a compliment or if they wanted to have a normal conversation. I have no idea how other dancers feel on the matter, so I won’t speak in a general sense. How do you other dancers out there feel about dirty talkers? Don’t mind it, prefer it, or (like me) wish they wouldn’t say much at all during lap dances?
Yes, it is true that all dancers are after one thing - money. Yes, we all have different ways about going to get this money. Unfortunately, some dancers will go beyond what’s in the job description to get what they want. If i’m not being clear enough, a certain percentage of dancers will do “extras” in the back. Sure, there are some clubs (say in West Virginia for ex.) where anything goes. Dancers in those clubs are ready to offer any services. That shit is against the rules in my club and I’m pretty sure it’s illegal in most places in any case. We are entertainers, but we DO NOT need to entertain our customers penises with our hands, mouth, or vagina……unless that is in our job description.
To those dancers who are willing to do more stuff in the back:
#1. You are making it hard on the dancers in the club that don’t do more stuff. When customers know that there are girls in the club who offer sex of any kind, they begin to expect it out of the rest of us. Suddenly, what used to be a safe and legal lap dance is now just a customer whipping his penis and a condom out. On the flip side, rather than having customers expect more out of all the dancers, customers may only choose to dance with the one girl (or two or three…) that is (are, if multiple dancers) doing dirty stuff in the back. Soooooo that means that those dancers are screwing over all the girls who follow the rules. Don’t ever f*** with a dancer’s money. NEVER EVER EVER.
#2. You are risking all of us getting arrested. If an undercover cop finds out that a girl is doing anything dirty in the back, he can arrest all the girls in the club. Why should dancers who do follow rules be punished for your lack of self respect?
#3. Just know that if a dancer knows about how you really make your money, she WILL tell other dancers. What happens at that point……OH LET’S SEE. Dancers will talk mad shit about you, complain to management about you, potentially get into a fight with you, throw away your shit if they get a hold of it in the dressing room. The first week a dancer at my club came back after getting caught receiving oral sex from a customer in the back, girls poured drinks on her clothes and threw her stuff in the trash. She can no longer keep her clothes or make-up in the dressing room.
Bottom Line: Respect the rules, respect the hustle, and respect your fellow dancers.
One of my favorite Aerosmith songs has the lyrics “If you can judge a wise man by the color of his skin then mister you’re a better man than I”. Unfortunately there are those who still think they can judge the quality of another person by the amount of melanin their body produces. What part of…
SPP #8 - When a dancer will steal another girl's customer
The proper term for this phenomenon is stepping on someone’s toes. Every club has their rules that are in black and white, but this is one of those unwritten but generally understood rules. It’s mainly about respect. YES, we are all there to make money, but be R-E-S-P-E-C-T-ful and don’t take another girl’s customer. Now there’s a lot of gray in what I’m saying so let me clarify.
1. If you see a girl sitting with a customer and she’s doing her thing, DO NOT sit with them and try and somehow compete with her. If there is another customer at their table that is free, go right ahead and try and hustle him.
2. If a girl has left her drink at the table, she is probably still sitting with that customer. If you see an unfinished drink and it’s not in front of the customer, politely ask if someone is sitting there. They will tell you if they’re sitting with a girl or not. Don’t be a bitch and sit in a girl’s spot when you know she’s just going to the bathroom. That’s pretty fucked up. How the fuck are you going to steal my customer when i’ve just been the one playing therapist/sex kitten for the past hour?!
3. If you know a customer is a regular and he is waiting for a specific girl (who is at the club that day), don’t be that bitch to try and hustle him anyways. Again, it’s just a thing of respect. If you don’t approach him but he gives you money or asks for a dance from you, then by all means, go ahead. That other dancer has no reason to be pissed because you did not actively pursue him. A dancer can not always control what her customer is going to do.
4. As clubpatron pointed out, don’t sit with a customer when the dancer he has been sitting with is on stage. She WILL be back.
Some dancers would argue that you cannot technically steal a customer. It’s true that you can’t own a customer. Even still, you should respect other girls who have been working on their customers. If they (dancers) can’t get what they want out of him or they do get what they want and move onto the next one, then by all means, move in on your target. Otherwise, find your own damn customer!
SPP #7 - Customers who flash their money but don't spend it
Even outside of the club, I hate people who are all “look at how much money I have”….”Oh, I just have so much money that I don’t know what to do with it.” I was raised to be really humble so I’m not into the boasters. Even if I weren’t a secret stripper, I wouldn’t brag about my earnings. I CAN NOT STAND IT when customers brag about how much money they have or even visually flaunt how much money they have and they won’t spend any of it on the dancers. It’s cool if you want to come in the club and not spend money…..I mean you’re only wasting my time, taking up space, and not giving me money. It’s even worse when customers come in the club, make it clear how much money they have, and then NOT spend it except for on a couple of drinks. Hear me loud and clear: I DON’T NEED TO KNOW HOW MUCH MONEY YOU HAVE/MAKE IF NONE OF IT’S GOING INTO MY WALLET. Just saying.
I have customers that come in looking all GQ talking about some new car they bought or huge deal they just closed out on. Well Congradu-fucking-lations. You’re clearly happy, now do me a favor and make me happy by buying lap dances or making it rain (like torrential down-pour rain) when I’m on stage. Ooooh, it’s even worse when the guys pull out their wallet and show you (or “accidentally” show you) just how much of a high-roller they are. I have a customer that literally carries around a few thousand dollars in his wallet. He shows all the dancers his wallet, but he doesn’t spend money on them. He’ll occasionally tip them on stage, buy ONE table dance ($20) or buy drinks, but he doesn’t measure up to his so called spending potential. Unless you plan on dropping mad bills, DO NOT brag or flash your cash. Ka-peesh?
My theories as to why customers do this:
1. They want attention. One of the best ways to get a table full of dancers is by making your spending potential known. You’ll lose those dancers once they realize you’re not spending any of that money, and WORSE, they will let other girls know so they won’t waste their time.
2. They want to appeal to those girls who are willing to prostitute themselves outside the club OR they are looking for a potential sugar baby. I had a customer offer to pay for my school tuition and more if I agreed to be his mistress. Tempting, but no thanks.
3. Maybe some sort of inferiority complex. Maybe the customers wive’s make them feel like they don’t make enough money or something so the men go to the club and boast to get a positive reaction out of the dancers.
These are just my theories. Regardless, I am in the club to make money, NOT to hear about it. Comprende?!
SPP #6 - Dancers who steal shit in the dressing room
This may not be a problem in all clubs depending on how the dressing room is set up. Before I saw my club, I thought we’d have our own private lockers or cubbies to lock away our stripper gear. WRONG. We have a small dressing room where everyone’s stuff is just out in the open. Smart girls buy bags that they can lock, but majority of the girls leave their stuff out in the open foolishly thinking (or hoping) no one will mess with it.
THIS JUST IN, dancers do steal stuff. Girl’s will have their straighteners, curling irons, outfits, make-up, and heels stolen. The worst part is, girl’s don’t even have to have their stuff left out in the open for it to go missing. If a bag doesn’t have a lock on it, it might get rifled through. If money is left out, you better believe it will be stolen. I can’t tell you how many girls are either stupid enough or just plain careless and leave their purses (full ‘O lettuce) in the dressing rooms. By the time they realize it and come back to retrieve it, ALL their money is gone.
My request: Don’t steal from a fellow dancer. If you’re an adequate dancer with decent hustling skills, you should have enough money to not have to steal. We don’t pay good money for high-quality hair products, make-up, and expensive outfits so you can end up stealing them. Also, keep in mind that Karma’s a bitch. A girl may steal something valuable from you one day.
I also personally hold dancers responsible for their shit getting stolen. Bitch, if you didn’t want your CHI to get stolen, then you should’ve locked it away when you were done using it. Girls should not steal shit in the first place, but since it’s going to happen no matter how many stars I wish upon, girl’s should lock their stuff away.
SPP #5 - When customers talk shit about a dancer to another dancer
Seriously though? I don’t, for the life of me, understand why customers do this. For all the customers know, that girl they’re ranting about might be the best friend of the dancer they are ranting to. I don’t care if you think a girl is a little hefty, foul-smelling, a bad dancer, or even bitchy. Keep that shit to yourself. I sometimes wonder if customers do this in an attempt to see if the dancer they’re complaining to will talk shit about that same dancer that’s being complained about.
I’ve seen it when a girl will talk shit about another dancer and then that customer will tell that dancer just to stir up trouble. Silly bitches. I don’t ever advise talking bad about another dancer to a customer because you have no idea if he really has a good relationship with that girl. I won’t front and act like I haven’t done it before, but it is a VERY RARE occurrence. To all the customers out there, you are absolutely entitled to your opinion, but it just gets kind of annoying to hear you talk shit about our co-workers. I have respect for majority of the dancers. I say “majority” because some girls do illegal shit, but that’s for a whole-nother blog post. Because I have respect for nearly all the dancers, I don’t care to hear your NEGATIVE opinions on their physical appearance, dance skills, or even their personality really. If a girl was legitimately being a bitch to you and you didn’t necessarily deserve it, then fine….i’ll hear you out BUT, if it’s constant and unnecessary complaining and insulting, then keep that shit to yourself or to your mates.
I know it doesn’t sound like a big deal and really, there are worst things. I just don’t know how to respond to negative comments about dancers, especially when they are my friends and I have the utmost respect and admiration for them.
Thank you! I am 21 and I did ballet when I was 14, I dont have direct knowledge about stripping but once I saw this documentary about strippers in Las Vegas and I was truly admired of their lives. The fact of enjoying their job, making good money, feeling desired, being independant and taking care of their bodies... this is like the way of life I always wanted to have, but I dont even know how to start... like, should I just go to a club and ask the owner if I can strip? lol
Different clubs operate differently when it comes to the application/interview process. The first thing you need to find out is if they’re hiring. Most clubs are always hiring dancers because strip clubs lose dancers just as fast as they hire them. In some clubs you have to audition, in others, the manager will just take a look at your body and base his/her decision off of that. For my club, I just had to fill out a paper application and show one of my bosses my ass and my stomach. If you haven’t already, you should read my blog entitled “tough business” and the one entitled “you are beautiful…” That will give you some much needed information about working in this business. My advice is to go to the club you want to work at, watch the dancers dance, and buy a lap dance yourself so you can get a feel for what you’ll have to do if you work there. I was worried when I first started dancing because I wasn’t a strong dancer outside of the club, but you’ll find that exotic dancing is a genre just as ballet is. It may take some time, but you’ll pick it up. Also, being a pretty face, great body, and kick-ass dancer does not guarantee you a lot of money. Most of your money comes from your hustle. Hustling is all about sales and marketing. You are the product and you want to convince the customers that you are worth buying (in a sense). For most customers, the strip club is a fantasy playground in which they can feel like gorgeous woman actually want them. You want to make these men feel like you want them. You have to constantly exude confidence and sex appeal every day you work. Also, as mentioned in the “tough business” blog, you need to have thick skin. This is a tough business which can eat you alive if you show even the slightest ounce of weakness. Other dancers can be mean and manipulate you and even the customers will try and take advantage of you if they sense any naivety. Any more specific tips/advice/knowledge you would like to know about the business? The purpose of my blog is not to just to share my experiences, but to help educate potential dancers and save them from having to learn things the hard way.
This is a minor pet peeve compared to all the rest of the bull shit I have to put up with day after day. When servers come around asking if a customer would like a drink, they almost always say “would you like to buy this pretty lady a drink?” It is our job as dancers to sell dances, but it is the server’s job to sell drinks. We are expected to get drinks when a customer offers to buy us drinks, even if we don’t want one. Unfortunately, there are customers that won’t even buy us drinks. When that server comes around asking “would you like to buy…..a drink?” These cheap ass customers will calmly reply, “no” or “no thanks”……RIGHT IN FRONT OF OUR FACES! Motherfucker, I just got off stage and i’m parched as shit! Have you no compassion?! It’s even worse when a guy won’t buy you a drink when he’s not even buying dances or tipping you on stage. The least you could do for a girl is buy her a drink if you’re not buying anything else. I know the drinks in certain clubs are a little pricey and we’re still burned from the recession, but if we work as hard as we do to entertain you, buy us at least 1 drink. Pretty please and thanks.
SPP #3 - When a customer questions/judges me for being a dancer
Have any of you ever been asked/told the following by a customer?
1.Why do you work here?
(my favorite) 2. You don’t belong here.
3. You can do better than this.
4. Do you really like working here?
*note that the bolding/italicizing of words above is to emphasize the tone of judgment attached to these questions
I’ve been asked the first question at least 50 times and I still don’t know how to answer it. I work here because the money is great and it’s not your typical 9-5. Seriously, how many jobs can you think of where “employees” get paid for being sexy and good in conversation AND get to drink on the job?! Sure, I get naked and dry hump gross, old men all day, but the money is worth it. So is that answer satisfying enough? You want specifics? I dance because the money I make is going towards student loans. Do girls really need to have a specific reason for dancing? I feel like people think if girls aren’t dancing to pay for kids, bills, tuition, and/or drugs, there is something wrong with them for wanting to do such a thing. There isn’t.
To the customer who says, ”you don’t belong here”- pardon my French, but fuck you. Who are you to tell me where I do or DO NOT belong?! I don’t tell you what you should be doing in life. Don’t come to my place of work and judge me. I really don’t appreciate it. Just what does it take for me to belong here? It’s comforting to know that I apparently don’t meet the criteria to be a dancer. Good to know….not.
Also, I don’t need you to tell me that I could be doing better. Why do some girls get told that and not others? Just because I’m a dancer does not mean I’m not doing something with my life. FYI, I just received a bachelor’s in psychology and am looking into grad school. I am going somewhere, but there’s nothing wrong with me dancing in the process. It doesn’t make me less of a person.
Lastly, don’t ask me if I really like doing what I do. It’s one thing when it is asked out of genuine concern, but sometimes I can taste the judgment dripping from a customers lips when he asks me this. Just like any other job, there are things you like and things you don’t like. There are some days when I’m unhappy because the money is bad and the men make me feel ugly/disgusting BUT, there are more days when I’m happy and am genuinely having a good time.
Some of the time these comments are okay and understandable, but NOT when there’s negative judgment all over the place.
This is hands-down one of my, and I’m sure many others’, biggest pet peeves. I wish this was a rare occurrence, but unfortunately for my club, most of the customers are terrible tippers. Girls will seriously dance their asses off, pulling out their best pole tricks and twirking as hard as their ass will allow, and they’ll be lucky to get $2. Seriously guys? I often wonder if customers think that the dancers get some kind of hourly wage and tips we make are just a bonus. For those of you who think so, we DO NOT get an hourly wage. In fact, we actually pay the club to work each day (amount depends on the club). The money we make comes from tips and lap dances.
There are days/nights when the club is filled with decent to outstanding tippers, but it doesn’t happen as often as it should. To all the customers out there, try and think of it this way - we are taking our clothes off in front of a bunch of strangers and working what our mother (or surgeon) gave us. The least you could do is give us a good tip out of respect for what he put ourselves through each day. If you don’t think what we’re doing is respectful, then get the F*** out of the club.
If you really like a girl, then you should without a doubt, make it rain on her. By making it rain, I mean $50-$80+. For some girls, making it rain is $100+. Don’t think you’re a baller because you gave a girl $7. Reality check, that is not a lot of money! I think that every girl should make a minimum of at least $10 on stage. I’m sure there are some girls where that is the case, but not in my club.
For the men who don’t tip for lap dances, I don’t hate you per se…but you’d make me really happy if you did. I have one customer who tips me anywhere from $100-$200 on top of the 15-min topless dances that he gets. Girls who go beyond the call of lap-dance-giving duty should absolutely get tipped for dances. What would this entail, you ask? Some girls do more things during lap dances than your basic grinding. AND, i’m not talking about things that are illegal or compromise their level of self-respect. Some girls are just better entertainers than others. TIP THEM.
Also, don’t ball up singles or crinkle them up and throw them at us. It’s disrespectful and it’s frustrating having to gather all our $1’s in time for the next dancer to get on stage when they’re all balled up. We’d prefer it if you didn’t fold them up in all kinds of different ways. For some girls, money is money and they don’t care the way it comes to them, but I know for me and many others, we don’t like our bills folded more than once. For me in particular, I don’t like tips in my lady parts. I’m not going to pick up your ONE DOLLAR BILL with my vag. It’s just not going to happen. Maybe i’d be more inclined if it was $100, but again, my club in particular is filled with terrible tippers.
What I’m trying to get at here is that being cheap in a club is just tacky. Go be cheap at a yard sale. We’re trying to make real money.
Stripper Pet Peeve (SPP) #1 - Wanting to date a stripper
We go by many different names, exotic dancers, strippers, whores even (no doubt by ignorant ass people)….but what we are without a doubt are entertainers. We use our sex appeal, charm, good looks (hopefully for most of us), wit even, and moves to entertain the customers. That is generally enough for a decent percentage of the men that come in. Unfortunately, majority of the men that come in, come in with the hope that they will leave with a girlfriend. Oh, we ALL get it at some point. Guys try to use their “charm" to win us over and convince us that we should go out with them. Some guys don’t even use charm, they just assume that we’ve been put in the club for their dating conveniences. For all the men out there, even women, strips clubs are not like eHarmony or Match.com. Stop coming in with the notion that you’ll leave with your soul mate. Our number one priority is making money, not getting a boyfriend. In fact, most of us have a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/or significant other of some sort. Some guys think that if they buy a couple of dances from us or tip us a little extra, we’ll want to date them. FALSE. Some guys won’t even buy a drink, let alone a dance, and they’re trying to convince us to go on a date with them. REALLY MO’FACKER? Why should I go out with you when you won’t even spend a dollar on me in the place that I work?! I just get tired of being asked out all the time. I even had a guy tell me that he was going to marry me and I would take care of his farm and his 5 yr old daughter. Fat chance. These guys need to look elsewhere for a girlfriend. All exotic dancers/strippers/whatever you go by are in a sense GOLD DIGGERS. It is what is is. I know it seems cool to date a stripper, I get it, but its not realistic. We’re there to make money and that is basically it. Plus, you’re better off finding someone out in the real world. Just saying.
You could be one of the best dancers in a club, but the songs that the DJ plays can sometimes be what makes or breaks your set. At most clubs, you tell a DJ what genre(s) of music you can/like to dance to and they will base their music off of that genre. If it’s a slow enough day or you get along with the DJ, you could probably even request a song. For instance, I often request slow rocks songs during day shift such as Digital Bath by Deftones or Sweet Dreams by Marilyn Manson. Despite knowing what you dance best to, girls need to keep in mind that the DJ’s have to play music that will cater to the audience. If there are a lot of older, white gentlemen, there’s probably going to be some oldies, classic rock, and maybe just a touch of house playing. If there’s a lot of black people - hip-hop (the standard), hispanic or latino - reggaeton. If it’s a good mix of people than you’ll hear everything. Certain DJ’s might even have their preferences for music. There’s a certain day DJ that loves rock music so he’ll play a lot of that. Another DJ prefers house music, so naturally that’s what one can expect to hear throughout most of the night. So here’s some tips/facts about the DJ’s that every dancer should keep in the back of her head:
1. Be on good terms with the DJ - You don’t have to be friends with the DJ, but don’t be someone he doesn’t like. I see girls do shit to piss off the DJ’s like not making it to stage when they’re called or throw diva fits about the music that’s being played. BIG MISTAKE. The DJ’s can retaliate by playing you music that you can’t dance to. It doesn’t take long for a DJ to get a feel for what music you dance best to so know by that information alone, he probably has a good idea for what you can’t dance to.
2. If the DJ is having an off day (for whatever reason), he may be off his game with playing good music. There may not be much you can do to fix this. Technically it’s unprofessional to bring your personal problems into work, but even the dancers do it so its hard to call a foul on that one. For all you know, some bitch threw a diva fit and now everyone’s suffering because he is pissed. My advice, either just suffer through it because there’s not much you can do or try and cheer him up yourself. It’s a long-shot sometimes, but who knows? It just might work.
3. It’s cool to be friends with the DJ and have deep conversations about life and love and blah blah blah on slow ass shifts, BUT, unless you’re on that level with the DJ, do not pour out you life’s problem to them. They are not getting paid to be your therapist.
4. Do not get piss-ass drunk and cry to the DJ’s. It’s just really unattractive and really annoying for the DJ’s to deal with you.
5. Tip the DJ’s extra. You will win their favor, which is vital. There may be a day when you’re not feeling to well and you want to leave just 30 min before the shift ends. If you’ve been tipping them extra or you do it really well this one time, they’ll probably let you leave early. Help them out, and they’ll help you out.
No doubt, this is most definitely an interesting post to follow-up with on the previous one. “Stripper Head" is a term used to describe when a stripper’s ego gets too big. Basically a girl with stripper head thinks she’s seriously hot shit. A girl can have stripper head when she first starts working or it can develop later, but it usually happens to most girls at some point. As mentioned in the previous post, I was extremely insecure when I first started working. After that two weeks of insecurity, I developed stripper head. Basically compliments from other dancers and customers made my head (ego) get really big. Other dancers would talk about my abs and my ass all the time. You’d think that a girl with stripper head would say “all the time,” but I kid you not, it was honestly the only thing dancers would talk about when I was around them. “OMG, Karma has the best ass…” “Karma, how did your ass get so big?” “When I get my ass done, I want it to look just like yours.” How can you not get stripper head when you get comments like these on the daily? Oh, and these comments were just from the dancers. I’d get comments from customers like, “you’re the prettiest girl in here”….”these girls are nothing compared to you.” I am not proud to admit it, but these comments actually got to me for a period of time. Don’t get me wrong, you want to have confidence when you’re on stage or when you’re working the floor, but NOT an over-sized ego. It can become really unattractive. Eventually, I got tired of the compliments and realized that they didn’t mean much. Mainly the ones from the customers. Customers will say anything to get attention. A customer will say “you’re the most beautiful girl in here” to FIVE different girls in the same night. It’s acceptable to be genuinely flattered, but the trick is to not let it get to your head and cause serious inflation.
Later after I had gotten over my stripper head, I was talking to one of the DJ’s I was close to and he said that he could tell when I had stripper head. I wish he would’ve told me when it was an issue, but it was good that I got over it on my own. My advice, be confident, but also be humble.
So as I mentioned earlier, before I started dancing, I had never been to a gentlemen’s club before. I had no idea what exotic dancers really looked like. So naturally, I had this unrealistic idea that all dancers looked like vegas girls. Every girl had beautiful blonde hair, perfect face, big tits, flat stomach, nice ass, long legs….tha works. So yes, as I mentioned before, UNREALISTIC. There are many girls of different shapes and sizes at my club and they are all beautiful in some way. For the first couple weeks of work, I actually felt really insecure when I compared myself to the other girls. I felt like that kid back in high school who wouldn’t change clothes in front of the others at gym time. Let me describe my set-up real quick. I am 5’2”, small boobs (small B-cup), real tight stomach with abs, nice ass, exotic face. This may sound like an awesome set-up to some of you, but in the beginning, it didn’t seem like enough. I had it in my head that all guys wanted was the white girl with the big boobs. Luckily enough, I quickly learned that men have different preferences. Not all men want a girl with big breasts. Thank goodness. It took time, but I finally accepted that all dancers, including me, are beautiful in their own way. Sure, a dancer may have her own opinions about a way another dancer looks. For instance, there is a girl who works at my club who flat out has a butter face…and most girls, including I, think so. Despite this, she has one of the best natural bodies of anyone in the club. That just goes to show that there is something beautiful about each and every dancer. We all have something that sets us apart from the other dancers. Just believe.
So, I had the same nightmare last night that I’ve many times since I’ve become a stripper. Currently, I keep all the money I’m saving in a purse. I know…I know…it’s not safe. It’s just over $8,000. In the dreams, I always lose the purse somehow. Last night the dream was slightly different. First off let me say, my dreams/nightmares feel more real if I’ve woken up in the morning and then drifted back to sleep. This was one of those cases. In my nightmare, I was having a party close to my old house with a bunch of girls. Somehow we were on a boat, which makes no sense because my old house is not near water. Anyways, I went back in my house to check on something and saw my purse on the ground. It looked skinny, meaning money was missing. I immediately panicked and opened the purse. There were only a couple stacks of ones. All of the big bills were missing! I ran out an asked all the girls if they went near my purse or knew anyone who was around my purse. One friend said a woman was near the purse. Frankly, it didn’t matter because the money was gone for good. Luckily enough, this dream started to become a lucid dream and I forced myself to wake up. This dream felt more real than the others and I really thought all my money was gone. I even called my boyfriend to tell him, which made it feel legit. Until I put that money in the bank, I’m going to keep having these dreams. Sigh.
don’t like the drugs, the drugs, the drugs…….Of course I had to choose a Marilyn Manson song that they play in the club all of the time to introduce the topic of this post.
So just as the title indicates, I don’t like drugs, but most of the other dancers at the club do. Since I was so new to the sex industry, I had no idea that so many people in this industry do drugs. Starting off with the most basic, nearly everyone at the club drinks alcohol. Now, there’s nothing wrong with that so I won’t speak on it.
The second most common drug there is nicotine (cigarettes). For a while, I felt like I was the only girl there who didn’t smoke. I always felt/feel like a bitch when girls ask me for a cigarette and I say “oh sorry, I don’t smoke.” One girl actually said, “well, I’m gonna need you to get acquainted with lung cancer so the next time I ask you for a cigarette, you’ll have one.” Right after cigarettes comes the Mary-J. Many of the girls either come into work high, or manage to get high while they’re at work. A couple girls even told me that they don’t make money unless they’re high because it gives them to confidence they need to talk to people.
Various types of pharmaceuticals are also popular with the girls. A few girls there pop pills like they’re damn skittles. A small percentage of women do harder drugs like E, Acid, or Cocaine. I’m going to assume that most girls did drugs before they started working at the club and the money that they make is to support their habits. I just feel like some girls need the drugs to make money to begin with. I understand needing to feel some sort of confidence because I know alcohol makes me feel invincible for a little bit, but I wonder if girls “use and abuse” (sounds strange) as a method of coping with the daily bullshit they put up with to make money. Just a thought.
I have nothing against the girls that do drugs. I would say don’t work at a job where you need to use drugs to cope with the daily hassles. I will also say that some girls need to get off the drugs because they come in looking and acting like a hot mess and customers can tell. You are NOT attractive coming off of your coke addiction boo boo.
Not even gonna lie, there isn’t too much that I remember about my first week of work. Back when I first started working, new girls were put on day shift so that they could get used to dancing and talking with the customers at a time when it wasn’t so busy. The house mom, at the time, thought I was pretty and tough enough to handle the night time so she started me off on a night shift. When I got there, the dressing room was packed with girls that clearly knew what they were doing and there was little old me trying not to be in anyone’s way. I had no idea what to do with my make-up or hair (still feel that way sometimes). I just threw on some sexy lingerie, my starter heels, and got out onto the floor. I was getting some bitchy glares from the other dancers but I did what my mother would do and just told myself that they were just jealous. My first couple of weeks, my dancing was pretty rough. I didn’t know how to do pole tricks, floor work, or even how to shake my ass. I even managed to hit my head on the pole one night, but i’m still telling myself that no one noticed. I was very shy and didn’t want to approach people. I knew that I had a lot to learn about the business but since week 1 didn’t send me running, I figured I’d stick around. If I were to guess at how much I made that first week, I would say somewhere between $500-$800. Yes, yes, I know…..that is how much some girls make in a single shift, but I was a newb at this point.
What you will learn in the first week of working in a strip club is how tough the business is. Not everyone is cut out to be a dancer. This even goes for the women out there who have great bodies and can dance. Here’s some facts you should know before you become a dancer:
1. You need to have thick skin - This is not an easy business and you will have to put up with a lot of disrespect from the customers, other dancers, and even management sometimes.
2. Haters gonna hate. Bitches gonna bitch - Most dancers are nice to one another, but be careful who you get close to in this business. Most girls are looking out for # 1 - themselves. They will not be afraid to talk shit about you, manipulate you to benefit themselves, and even steal your customers. Girls will also hate on you for stupid stuff, but you can’t let it get to you. Girls didn’t like me when I first started working because one, I was new and two, I was shy and quiet, so most girls assumed that I was stuck-up. Once girls got to know me, they realized that I’m truly a sweetheart and I’m very humble. Let girls hate and let you do you. The general mentality is that you are there to make money, not friends.
3. Men are pigs - this is nothing new. We see this outside of the strip club when we’re walking in a sexy sundress past a crowd of working men. I can tell you right now, it’s much worse in a strip club because the men feel like they can get away with so much shit in there. Here’s a further breakdown of this general point:
a. Men will try to mess with you. DO NOT LET THEM. For one, this is illegal and you can get the club shut down and every dancer up in that bitch arrested. Don’t leave your self-respect at home or at the door. Carry that shit with you on a key chain if you must. If you want to be a prostitute, go trick out on K street. Just don’t do anything dirty in the club. If men are being too aggressive with you, call over security or handle that shit yourself. I’ve heard of dancers punching/slapping men for being grimy.
b. Men will try and take you home. Again, don’t do it. Once they get what they want out of you, you cannot make anymore money off of them. You want them to keep coming back for more.
c. Men will insult, disrespect, and offend you in ways you couldn’t imagine. They will make you feel cheap some nights. They will make insulting remarks about your body, dancing, personality, and even the way you smell. Be prepared to withstand whatever they throw at you. A good percentage of the men that go into strip clubs have no respect for women.
4. Hustling - the majoring of the money you make is about your hustle. Most people, including I, think (for me now, thought) it is enough to just have a pretty face, nice body, and great dancing skills to make a fuck-ton of money. WRONG. It is all about how you sell yourself. If you don’t like talking to people and pretending to be interested in them (like me), then you won’t make that much money. For men, the strip club is a fantasy playground where they can feel like beautiful women actually want them. If you have shitty people/customer service/marketing skills, you will not do well in the business. nuff said.
5. Jaded Psyche - Working in the strip club can really mess with your mind. Not everyone can handle getting in front of a bunch of strangers and taking off their clothes or having men grab them and make them feel used. Just know there may be days when you question what you’re doing and whether it’s really worth it.
Take all these major points into consideration before you consider stripping. It is not an easy business.
So being a complete newb, I had no idea what outfits to buy to wear my first week. I didn’t want to order any outfits online because there’s always a chance that they won’t fit. I was informed that a woman comes by the club frequently and she sells the dancers their clothes. I couldn’t exactly afford her outfits starting out, so I had to make do with what little cash I had. Surprisingly, I was able to find some really cute outfits at Ross. I also got a pair of starter heels from Ross because I’m cheap as shit and I’m not used to wearing heels, let alone, stripper heels. At the specific club that I work at, the farthest that we can strip down to is pasties and a G-string. The pasties have to completely cover the nipple and the thongs have to completely cover all your lady business and booty hole. When not on a stage or in the back doing a lap dance, we (dancers) have to have our breasts and our ass covered. Here is what most girls wear:
1. Designated strippers outfits
2. Sexy lingerie
3. Swimsuits (bikini or monokini)
4. Sexy dresses
It’s best to wear something that accentuates your body so that you’ll stand out among the crowd. A lot of girls wear outfits that glow so it’ll catch the men’s attention. My first week, I just wore some really nice lingerie. As time went on, I began to get more sexy outfits like dresses and corsets. I still don’t really buy “designated stripper outfits” but what I have works for me. Funny enough, I still don’t wear official stripper heels. The shoes I’m currently rocking are pretty obviously beat up black strappy high heels. I can’t seem to get rid of them because they’re so easy to dance in and walk around in for long periods of time. Eventually I’ll get real stripper heels. For now, I’m just going to keep on doing my thing.
So as I mentioned before….my name is Karma. Of course that is my STAGE NAME! All dancers are encouraged to come up with a stage name. I think the purpose of this is to not only to keep your identity a secret for your own safety, but to also create another persona that men can really get into. Some girls choose names that are plain names that any mother would name her child. Other girls choose names that sound incredibly sexy and only celebrities would name their children. I just knew I didn’t want some cutesy name like “bubbles” or “peaches.” AND, I most certainly did not want to be named after some Disney princess. I wanted a name that really reflected myself and that customers would find original and sexy. I chose Karma. It is a really strong name and it has significant meaning behind it. Now when I tell customers my name, I usually get one of two responses. The first is “now are you good karma or bad karma?” The second and most annoying one is the statement “karma is a bitch.” Yes, I will be a bitch if you say that to me. For the most part, men think that my name is cool. It just kind of has a bite to it and I love the name. I may even get it tattooed on my body somewhere as a reminder of my days as an exotic dancer.
So customers ask me this question all the time: “What made you start working here?” I always pause for a second before I answer because in my opinion, my answer is somewhat strange. Before I tell you what my true answer is, let me provide you with some brief facts. Before I started dancing, I was going to school full-time, I have no kids, and no bills outside of car insurance. My parents are still taking good care of me. I say all these things because I think the majority of girls who dance need the money to pay for their bills, kids, drugs, and/or to put them through school. This isn’t necessarily the case for me. Here is where it all starts. During the summer or ‘10 I was looking for a job. It all started on Craigslist. I was just initially looking for jobs doing administrative work. I went under the “food/beverage/hospitality” section and I saw an ad looking for a manager for a local Gentlemen’s club. I grew up near this strip club, but I had never been in it, or any other club for that matter. Even though the they were looking for a manager, I just wanted the validation that I was hot enough to be a dancer, so I replied to the ad. I sent a couple pictures of myself and asked if they were hiring dancers. Someone replied back saying that I was gorgeous and that I should apply to be a dancer. He also told me that I had the potential to make $1,000 a night. Who wouldn’t want to make that much money?! The only problem is that I had never considered stripping before and I could not dance. The other problem that I had was I had a boyfriend who I wasn’t sure would be comfortable with the idea. When I told him about it, he actually was very supportive and even a little excited. He took me to my interview, and I was hired the same day. I was so excited, but so nervous at the same time. I told myself that I would try it for a week and if I didn’t like it, I would quit. It would definitely be an adventure, but one in which I was ready to embark upon.