……no you’re eyes do not deceive you. This is Sue Johanson, the host of Talk Sex with Sue Johanson - a show that used to come on Oxygen late on Sunday nights. Legit, this woman was my hero some years ago. I used to stay up late just to watch her show. I always thought the questions people called in were really interesting and it cracked me up when she’d pull out the wooden dolls or special toys to show the audience how something should be performed. Ahh, I miss this show. Please tell me someone else remembers this show?!
As a dancer, caring for yourself is vital; when the product being sold is yourself, the condition of that product is of the utmost importance. This series will explore the ways in which a dancer can (and should) care for themselves, and the reasons such care is necessary.
I swear if I ever have to go through the dating process again (and I hope I don’t), I’m handing this out to all prospective dates. It’s my version, so surely it doesn’t represent all (or even most) dancers, of course. I’m seriously considering giving this to the significant other…
hands down, one of the best lists I’ve seen on tumblr
Sometimes the stereotypes we fight are not strictly personal. And sometimes they’re not only outside the club. One of the stereotypes that’s got me thinking a lot lately is the “lucrative stereotype” and how it can really bite you in the ass.
Imagine you’re sitting with a client and instead of the myriad douchebag excuses he gives about why he isn’t getting a dance, he instead pins it on you: “But you make so much money, you don’t need my help.” Thaaanks, buddy!
Did you go to a few strip clubs as a customer or work at the bar before you started to strip? To get an idea of everything?
No. Funny enough, I had never set foot inside a strip club before I started working in one. I had no idea what to expect or anything. I decided that I’d do my interview and if I got hired, then I would give it a week and if I didn’t like it I’d leave and call it an experience. I ended up loving it so I stayed. Even though it’s not what I did, I’d recommend checking out a couple of clubs first before becoming a dancer. It helps tremendously when you know what to expect.
Okay, it took some time and i’m not sure if its the same for other people, but for whatever reason I cannot answer questions privately if they’re sent anonymously. I have the ‘answer privately’ option for people who don’t choose to ask anonymously. Is this the same for everyone else? I’m still learning things about tumblr so please don’t judge :)
Why does it appear that I don’t have the answer privately feature when it comes to responding to questions? Can anyone tell me how to enable this feature because I love to answer people’s questions but I respect that many people appreciate privacy and don’t want their business posted on someone’s blog. Help help, please?
Day shift in my club is from noon - 8 pm. Generally only 6-10 dancers get put on day shifts because its not busy enough during the day for more girls. As a result of less girls and less patrons than night shift, day shift is much more relaxed. Here are some of the benefits of working during day shift:
Less competition as a result of less dancers.
DJ is more flexible with music during the day. Rather than just requesting a certain genre, you maybe be able to request a specific set of songs as long as they aren’t too fast or too slow.
Plenty of down time - Some days you just may not have enough energy to hustle hard, for whatever reason. That down time during the day comes in handy on those kind of days.
Great time to practice pole tricks if there aren’t that many patrons in the club. I love to try new pole tricks but I won’t do it in a packed club out of fear I’ll mess up and it’ll be totally noticeable. Dancers in my club often practice pole tricks during 2-4-1’s on slow days and let me tell you, its so nice when other dancers help you out.
Earning potential is sometimes greater than it would be during a night shift if you have a good regular (or multiple ones).
Let me now describe the kind of crowd (customer-wise) the club sees during the day. Generally it’s middle-aged to older middle-to-upper class gentlemen just getting off from work or taking a break during lunch. Sometimes its men who have no job and therefore really shouldn’t be spending what little they have in a strip club. A lot of the times, you’ll see the same patrons come in during the day and once you establish a good business relationship with them, you can start calling them regulars. The best way to make money during the day is to get regulars. You don’t have to have a lot because quality can easily outweigh quantity. I know some dancers that have customers come in a spend at least $1,000 on them. I have a day customer that I can count on to make at least 400-500 off of. The best thing about these regulars is that if you have a good enough relationship with them, you can text them to come in on a slow day. It’s not guaranteed that they’ll come in but if they like you enough and they’re not busy, they just might.
It’s also good for regulars to know your schedule in advanced so they know when to come in. Sometimes they might contact you to get you to come in on a day that you’re not scheduled for. I’d only recommend doing this if they’re going to spend some real money on you. You have to keep those house and DJ fees in mind. In my club, it’s $10 to the club and $20 to the DJ. If you make more than $200 on the books that shift, then you pay the DJ 10% of whatever you made on the books.
So day shift can either rock if you have good regulars or get lucky, but it can also suck if hardly anyone comes in. Sometimes you don’t mind those slow days because you’ve already made your quota for the week but if the club is your only job and you haven’t made your quota, it matters. If your club is slow enough that you can play cards with other dancers or management, play drinking games with the staff, tell the DJ your life story - you’re probably having fun, but you’re probably not making that much money. We all get those days sometimes but hopefully there are more good than bad. That pretty much sums up day shift.
There are two main shifts in my club, and perhaps in many other strip clubs as well. There is day shift and night shift. My club also has what’s called a mid shift but I’m not sure how common that is in other clubs. It basically takes place right in the middle of a day shift and night shift and the only other difference is you pay double the amount for house and DJ fees. I want to talk about the differences between these day and night shifts because there are distinct differences. I will talk about them in separate blog posts and they will probably be fairly lengthy.
Most, if not all dancers have a stripper bag. It’s where we keep all of our essential stripper gear items. A lot of dancers probably have the same types of items in their bag but I want to list my items:
Stripper Outfits - this includes thongs, booty shorts, sexy lingerie, corsets, dresses, swimsuits, and teddy’s.
Heels - black heels are generally what I keep on me even though the clear heels are more classic.
Perfumes/Sprays/Body Lotions - Its so important to smell amazing at all times. I prefer Victoria Secret and B&BW fragrances.
Baby wipes - not all clubs have showers so baby wipes are the next best thing if you really need to wipe yourself down.
Hair Supplies - this includes my flat iron, comb, hair serum and polish, and hair ties. I don’t like having my hair curly at work which is why I don’t keep a curling iron on me or hair rollers.
Nail polish and remover
Make-up - includes eye shadow, liner, primer, mascara, blush, and lip gloss. I also make sure to keep make-up remover on me. I use neutrogena cleansing wipes.
Phone charger & phone - this comes in especially handy when you work doubles
Snacks and water - It’s easy to miss meals when you’re working an 8 hr shift in the club so it’s nice to have snacks on you. I usually keep some trail mix on me and sometimes skittles if I’m craving sweets.
Tooth brush and tooth paste - I like to clean my teeth after I eat anything or drink alcohol.
That pretty much sums up what I keep in my stripper bag. I may have accidentally left out a couple of items like but I think I nailed most of them. Anything else you keep in your stripper bag that I didn’t list?
Do you think 21 is too late to start stripping?.. P.s.. You're not a jerk! :)
Absolutely not! I started stripping when I was 20. It was a little hard for me only when it came to patrons trying to buy me drinks. Besides selling dances, clubs love it when their girls can sell bottles of champagne. It’s a little hard to do when technically you’re not of age to drink it and the fine for underage drinking in my club is $500 and a week suspension. I say 21 is actually a great age to start! Best of luck to you and if you need any tips, please feel free to ask!
Fuck Yea. So I’ve been kind of bummed because I’ve been out of the gym for a while. The nearest gym to me is actually 30 minutes away and I’m guess I’m just a wee bit lazy. Well now I’m going to have a gym in my house! The utility room in my house will now be a little gym. It will be equipped with a bike, treadmill, and one of those multi-purpose machines. Now there will be no need to go to a gym. All it will need are some free weights and a pull up bar and it will be complete.
Getting back into exercising after you’ve stopped for a while SUCKS but after your body starts to get used to it, it can be addicting. It just feels so good to strengthen your body and it gives you so much energy. My older brother tried to convince me to do p90x but i’m not sure I can commit to 90 days of hardcore exercise. I do have the Insanity workout DVD’s but I’m kind of hesitant to using them. For one, I’d need to increase my caloric intake to about 3,000 because I don’t want to lose any weight. I want to gain muscle and tone my body. The other reason is because its a ridiculously intense workout that guarantees pools of sweat and I don’t feel like doing that to my hair.
In any case, I can’t wait to start hitting up the gym. All it will take is walk down a couple flights of stairs to my basement. Who knows? Maybe if I get into good enough shape, I’ll go for my personal trainers certification. That’s more of a fall back in case for whatever reason I don’t get into grad school next year but health and fitness could be my calling.
“Those of us who stand outside the circle of this society’s definition of acceptable women; those of us who have been forged in the crucibles of difference – those of us who are poor, who are lesbians, who are Black, who are older – know that survival is not an academic skill. It is learning how to stand alone, unpopular and sometimes reviled, and how to make common cause with those others identified as outside the structures in order to define and seek a world in which we can all flourish. It is learning how to take our differences and make them strengths.”—Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider (via newwavefeminism)
Is exotic dancing the gateway drug of the sex industry?
It just seems like a pretty comfortable place to start and get a feel for what one’s limits are. I’d imagine other sex industry occupations such as webcam shows and peep shows might be a comfortable place to start for some as well. I had never imagined myself becoming an exotic dancer, but after I did I started thinking about other things. I considered webcam shows and even private parties. One time, a female patron attempted to recruit me to become a body masseuse. Basically I would have to strip naked and massage a client’s body and then provide a happy finish. I never ended up doing this because it would’ve made for a seriously unhappy boyfriend, not too mention I wasn’t sure it was something I was up for. Regardless, I wonder if it’s like this for other women who start off at the bottom of the sex industry pyramid. Anyone out there who feels the same as I do and have the same thoughts as me after becoming a dancer? Did you ever consider or actually accomplish doing something a little more risque?
Let’s face it, everyone has their limits. So no matter how much of a champ you are (or think you are) because of how much alcohol you can drink, it is possible for you to gettoo fucked up. It is not cute, nor is it safe to be piss ass drunk at the club. I’m sure you learned in high school about all the not-so-fun effects of alcohol such as impaired judgment, loss of balance, and sometimes loss of memory. Those effects can prove to be very dangerous when you’re in an environment where you have to dance and worry about creepy old men trying to take advantage of you.
Let’s start with the whole dancing aspect. Some dancers dance better on a comfortable buzz. That is, however, certainly not the case for everyone and especially if limits have been exceeded. Patrons as well as management can tell if you’re drunk on stage. It’s not attractive when you’re practically stumbling over yourself to twirl and twirk on stage. Forget about pole tricks! Pole tricks can be hazardous when you’re completely sober so why would you try to nail a gemini when you’re hammered?
About that whole impaired judgment thing……yeah, I’d possible worry about that the most. If patrons try to take advantage when dancers are sober, what makes you think they won’t try something when you’re intoxicated? They’re going to try and get away with so much shit in the VIP and champagne rooms and what’s sad is you’ll probably let them because your inhibitions are significantly lowered.
I hate to sound like one of those people off those loser 80’s videos we had to watch in high school on drinking, but I promise I’m just trying to look out. I’ve seen girls get fired, fined, and violated just because they weren’t monitoring their alcohol intake. Make no mistake, i’m not saying one shouldn’t drink in the club. It’s just important to make sure you don’t drink too much. I know that can be difficult sometimes since your drinks are being paid for and maybe your customer is pushing more drinks your way. Just keep yourself safe. Always.
How are things with your boyfriend? Are you still questioning whether he is enjoying you being a stripper for the money?
Things have been good. He doesn’t expect me to pay for things that I used to pay for in the past like couple’s massage treatments, hotel stays, and my half of dinner when we went out. I pointed out to him one day that I missed how things used to be in our relationship when he used to insist on taking me out on dates and spoiling me. That’s the only role he’s ever known in his relationships so maybe having a gf who made more money was somewhat of a shock to him. I think he’s realized that and things have gone back to normal.
You said your parents are very protective of you.. In what ways? My parents are the same!
My parents have to know what i’m doing, who with, and where. It’s so annoying and its only because i’m still living under their roof. My parents know they can’t technically tell me what to do, but they still hound me about doing things they don’t approve of.